-”It’s the inside that counts” – “I don’t judge people according to how they look”.
These quotes are completely self-delusional and self-deceptive, you are manipulating yourself into believing that you are apparently better/more than those who are obsessed by the outside, which most of us are, only to various extent.
This includes those that are claiming that they aren’t shallow and are referring to these quotes.
Everybody compares themselves to others; some people just don’t “want” to be someone who does that so they lie to themselves until they believe in their made-up personality.
-“I don’t judge my appearance to someone else, I am happy with the way I look”
Okay, but if you look at this self-honestly I think that you have to reconsider your statement - are you comparing how much money you earn in comparisons to your colleagues? Are you comparing your grades from school with someone else? Are you comparing your relationship to someone else’s relationship? We all have some point of self-judgment in relation to how we are presented to others. We are constructed as shallow creatures that thrive of competitions.
I’ve never met anyone who actually can state this quotes without lying and I realize that I’ve used this statements as well – I thought that I didn’t judge people according to how they dressed, how they walked, how they talked, what size they had or what their face and hairdo looked like – but at the same time I would judge myself according to what I perceive myself to look like, I would judge myself as ugly, as fat, as unattractive.
I was self-delusional cause for me to be able to judge myself as ugly and so on, I would have to judge and compare my appearance to other humans/media/models. How will I be able to know what ugliness is otherwise?
Still I allow myself to judge myself according to what I look like;
I sometimes find myself wearing clothes that I perceive as pretty instead of wearing clothes that supports me, that feels good against my skin, that is comfortable.
No, I still allow myself to follow the beauty-contest that we have created and manifested in this world.
Every day is like a fashion-show – Take a look at this and you will see it;
Advertisements were women walks around in these small bikinis and high-heels-shoes just so that the ass/ bottom will be highlighted, because this is something that we are programmed to see as attractive.
We are portraying ourselves as pictures when we allow ourselves to blindly follow fashion instead of comfortableness.
It’s all a competition; we compete in every aspect of life and this starts already when we are really young. –School-grades, Intelligence-level, Video-games, Computer-games, TV-shows such as Top-Model and American Idol, President-elections,
Winning an argument, Auditions for certain schools - they all promotes competition.
Nothing is really promoting self-expression, not even music or art - it’s always a competition were someone is the best/the winner and someone is the loser/the one who can’t paint “as good” as someone else.
Who decided what is good and what is bad? Why does it matter?
-To be able to change we first have to recognize what we have accepted and allowed ourselves to be and become, until then it will be impossible to change.