Day 76. If You're Ugly You're Not My Friend

• I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to judge others according to their external appearance and within this would thus create a belief/idea about the other person before even getting to know them. I now see, realize and understand that I am preventing myself from actually, really getting to know people for who they are as their real self-expression because I allow myself to form an idea based on the picture I see with my judging eyes, and when I thus have formed this idea I will only see the person for who I believe they are – not who they really, actually are. When and as I see that I am forming an idea about another person based on what I can see with my eyes – I stop and I breathe – I do not accept or allow myself to continue judging/defining others according to the picture I see of them but instead I commit myself to really get to know who others are, as their real self – and not create an false idea about them through only seeing the picture presentation.

• I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to, throughout my life, connect and link my perception of others as to what  I think of them to their appearance – thinking and believing that a person who I perceive as for example evil looks like that and a person who are kind looks like that. Within this I would then accessing the memories I have of my perception of others and their appearance – and then when I would meet new people I would already when I see their appearance create a belief/idea/perception of them through connecting the image I see of them to past memories/experiences I had towards others in my world/reality, their appearance and my perception of them. I now see, realize and understand that I am preventing myself from really getting to know others when I allow myself to create a perception/idea/belief about them based on their appearance – linking it to past memories/experiences that I have had towards others. I commit myself to, when and as I meet new people, remain here, breathing – not allowing myself to go into forming any idea/belief/perception about them because of my perception of their appearance – but to instead always treat others as I would like to be treated, listen and really get to know them for who they are.

• I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to think and believe that a person can look evil or kind dependent on how they look – not seeing or realizing that this is all programming – in where I have seen movies/television-shows/media that is showing “bad guys” and “good guys” and within that would thus get programmed into thinking and believing that all “bad guys” looks a certain way and all “good guys” looks a certain way. I now see, realize and understand that how a person looks doesn’t tell me anything about them – that this is just beliefs/ideas I have created through what I have seen in movies/television-shows/media.

• I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to only trust people who I perceive as looking “trustworthy” – and within this would thus change myself and my expression towards other people dependent on whether or not I feel “safe” in their company – dependent on whether or not I have judged them as looking trustworthy or not. I now see, realize and understand that I can never trust my perception of others when it is based on what I see with my human physical eyes so thus I commit myself to stop trusting my judgment of other people when it is based on my perception of their appearance and instead I furthermore commit myself to really get to know others before I create any kind of idea/belief/perception of them.

• I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to think and believe that people with curly hair is more fun than people with straight hair because of past experiences/memories I have had with people I have known that had curly hair and how they expressed themselves freely/was very funny – and because of this would thus think and believe that others who also have curly hair must be more fun/expressive – and within this would thus create an automatic perception of all people with curly hair because of how I have linked/connected the appearance of people I have known, as their curly hair, to how they expressed themselves – not seeing or realizing that it had nothing to do with the hair – lol. I now see, realize and understand that dependent on who I am interacting with I am changing my expression – and that when I am with people with curly hair, I would change my expression to be more relaxed/expressive/making jokes and within that would thus experience it as if people with curly hair would be more relaxed/expressive/funny – when all the while I was the one changing my expression and pushing others to imitate/get influenced by how I would act. I commit myself to, when I am interacting with others, to always make sure that I remain here, stable, breathing – expressing me as who I am – not taking on a personality/enhancing certain aspects of myself because of how I have interpret others to be according to my judgment of their appearance – but to instead within moments in where I see that I am changing myself according to how I perceive others to be – to stop and breathe – bring myself back to here and express myself as who I actually am and within that I furthermore commit myself to get to know people for who they are – not form an idea/belief/perception of them according to how they look and my interpretation of their appearance.

• I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to think and believe that a person can look friendly – believing that you must look a certain way to be friendly/nice and that if a person’s appearance isn’t met with my belief of how a person who are friendly looks like he/she is thus not a person I want to interact with – and within this would thus only interact and express myself freely/be relaxed when I am interacting with beings who I would perceive as looking friendly because of an idea and belief that they are less judgmental/more open and more trustworthy. I commit myself to, when and as I see that I am assessing whether or not a person is friendly according to how I perceive him/her to look and when and as I see that I am adjusting my self-expression according to whether or not I see the person as friendly/not friendly because of how I perceive their appearance – to stop and breathe – realize that I am accessing judgments/definitions/beliefs/ideas within my mind that is based on programming and not reality – and within this thus stop myself from acting according to my beliefs/ideas/perceptions/judgments/definitions and instead always express myself here, getting to know the being for who he/she is – not according to my judgments – since I can see that that is limiting/preventing me from actually getting to know someone as who they actually are – as well as limiting/preventing the being from actually expressing who they are.

• I forgive myself that I haven’t accepted and allowed myself to see, realize and understand that I am actually self-sabotaging when and as I am judging others according to their appearance – because within this I am stating that it is okay to judge according to appearance – thus accepting others to judge me according to how I look as well as me judging and defining myself according to my appearance. Within this I see, realize and understand that as long as I allow myself to judge others according to my perception of their appearance I will always remain in constant fear of being judged as well – thus within this I commit myself to, when and as I see that I have gone into judgment towards others or my appearance – to stop and breathe – bring myself back to here and to look past the hair, the eyes, the face, the body-size, the skin, look beyond that and realize that we are all skeletons behind all of that, we are all equal and one – seeing people for who they are, and really getting to know beings through not assessing their appearance within my mind.